A couple of days ago I was walking down the street behind five women who were slender and looked well-dressed. It suddenly dawned on me that they all had varying shades of long blond hair. I decided to see how many more blond women I could spot. Believe me when I tell you there were a lot of them.
It was rare to see a brunette. Is blond the color of choice because we’ve been trained to believe that “blondes have more fun”? I don’t think there is a similar metaphor for dark hair. So does that mean that if your hair tends more toward the brown shades that you’ll be decidedly more miserable? Redheads are supposed to be sassy, but are they having fun? What’s ludicrous about this whole concept is that we seem to attribute fun to hair color and other things instead of realizing what fun really is.
Individuals with a lot of money are supposed to be having a heck of a time. Yet I have been in countries where poverty was rampant, and I saw more smiles than I could count. When you retire you’re supposed to really have a great time. But if you’ve been waiting for years to have fun and you croak one month before you retire, you’ve really missed out. How many times have you heard people tell you they’ll have fun when they lose weight, get divorced, the children grow up, their day off, or the sun comes out.
Isn’t it interesting that fun, the one thing that is such a big part of what we seek and could do naturally ,becomes put off and made into a job. Our natural predisposition as children, unless we are squashed unmercifully, is to be playful, laugh and have fun. Unfortunately our culture has tried to impose more and more structured playtime and fun on children which is denying them the opportunity for spontaneous fun.
I’ve attempted to get together with some friends who go on and on about how much they have to do, before they can fit in a lunch, or dinner. I’m not asking them to put me into their surgical schedule, just give me a couple of hours of your time.
What they and many others like them have forgotten is that we are temporary residents of this planet. If we can periodically confront that reality we will begin to see fun as we once did, as part of our inherent nature. We will stop waiting and start realizing that we are the fun we are waiting for!
Author, humorist, PBS star and Fortune 500 trainer Loretta LaRoche lives in Plymouth, Mass. To share your pet peeves, questions or comments, write to The Humor Potential, 50 Court St., Plymouth, MA 02360. Email her, visit her website at www.stressed.com or call 800-998-2324.