Dear Cheryl: Im a 36-year-old professional woman. I finally met the most wonderful guy, and weve been dating for four months. He treats me like a queen. Hes 27 and has a good job but wants more. Hes very intelligent and is working on several business ventures.

But theres a problem. At first I thought it was sex because we only have it once, maybe twice, a week. When we do, I feel like Im just some random chick. Foreplay is minimal. And he often grabs his cellphone afterward.

But its not just sex; its intimacy. Even when were just relaxing, theres no touching. When I try to kiss him, I get rejected. I can see how this could destroy our relationship in the long run. He told me hes had this problem in all his past relationships. I think if he let his guard down emotionally, hed be more intimate with me, and therefore, wed have more sex.

He told me he sometimes feels I deserve better, someone whos in the same place professionally and could focus more on the relationship.

I dont want to lose him. I just need some tips on how to inject intimacy into our relationship without putting pressure on him. Ive tried everything! Hes Almost Perfect

Dear Hes Almost Perfect: There are some things that can be fixed. If youre honest with him and hes willing, he could become a more thoughtful lover. If pleasing you is really important to him, he will occasionally watch TV with his arm around you.

But some things cant be fixed. Hes never going to be a touchy-feely guy. And if hes truly blocked emotionally; if he feels inferior to you; if hes too involved in his career to focus on your relationship; and if hes in a different place in his life, then theres nothing you can do.

I hear how much you want this relationship to work. But it might not. And if you continue to settle, youll resent him and become bitter. Force the issue. Its better to know now than six months or six years from now.

Dear Cheryl: My husband and I are Baptists. We just married our son to a Jew. In our minds, Jews are atheists because they dont believe in Jesus Christ. What are the chances of this marriage lasting? Concerned Father

Dear Concerned Father: The chances are better if you educate yourself. An atheist is someone who doesnt believe in God. Jews believe in God. And Jews believe Jesus Christ existed.

Jews and Christians read the same holy book. Jews call it the Hebrew Bible; Christians call it the Old Testament. There are many similarities between the two religions. They both believe in the golden rule.

It would be a wonderful show of faith in the marriage if you were to learn about the Jewish religion as a way to welcome your daughter-in-law into the family. And hopefully, that would inspire her parents to study Christianity as a way to honor their new son-in-law. Involving both sets of parents can only strengthen the union.

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